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Virtual Resilience – More Important than EVER. – Affirmation Tape
Do you want to help yourself become super prepared and in-the-zone before chairing that all important Zoom meeting next week? Or, pitching your business idea to some high-rollers to generate some much needed “recovery” income?
This practical post will take you from feeling like a nervous, hesitant wallflower to becoming a centred, confident and resilient powerhouse. And, it will work again and again, EVERY TIME YOU NEED IT.
Esteem Issues – Unless you are a psychopath, you will have days when you experience lower levels of self-esteem, drive and confidence and where the prospect of “putting on a show” fills you with dread. Here, we borrow a little magic from NLP and package up your best past to make it available to you in the now. How useful does that sound? So, here we go…
If only The Donald had made an affirmation recording!
Action time – Start by writing out your “best of” lists. Then, refine and hone them, as you type them up, and, collecting them in a power Word document that will represent the best version of YOU.
Please do this with a positive heart, a clear mind, and, keep at it until you fill the pages.
There are 9 great lists to fill in.
Enjoy doing the work and you will reap the reward when you record them for your everlasting affirmation “tape.”
Profile – When you look through the files on your computer, you will probably find many different versions of your personal profile. You never threw out your core profile but just adding words and clients or awards as you accumulated them.
Question. When would now be the time to dust off that document and give it a spring clean? Does it contain a killer profile sentence? “I help (target customer type, W) to achieve (customer W’s dreamed of outcome and result, X) by providing (product / service, Z) in (unique and value added way, Z) and I do this because (purpose, manifestation of your drivers and values – inserted here) and, because it is the right thing to do…”
Deal Sheet – This is a review of your prestigious and wide client list, the types of people you work with, or, institutions you have helped, and, a general exercise in reflected glory. Do please, enjoy filling out this long and illustrious list (and refresh it regularly.) Just hearing the names being read back to you will fill you with excitement, good memories and top up your identity bucket with value and glory.
Country, place list. If you were a pre – Covid carbon basher (that is a conversation for another time) list the places where you have conducted business. Countries and towns. This will probably be a more impressive list than you first think and, again, fill you with a positive vibration, happy memories, and excitement.
What, specifically do you do? – Here we are looking for actions, applications, verbs, applied competencies etc. that will give you the feeling that you are a valid and dynamic action taker, and, have a wide and deep capability. You get the job done.
Incoming praise – Why do all the heavy lifting yourself? Take a moment to record all the kind, true and positive things other people have said about you over the years. Find this material in your LinkedIn recommendations and endorsements. This represents an easy place to start – Pick out and note key power phrases that someone else has said about you – Phrases that make you feel good. Job references that others have supplied for you, if you have access to them are a gold mine. Positive appraisal comments that stick in your mind are worth their weight in gold. Even, kind words said at a birthday, work anniversary or leaving do speech can be mined for this exercise. Any memory of someone shared by someone you respect, saying something both true and positive will be just the right phrase to note down for this affirmation compilation list.
Numbers – I was coaching an executive moving from Germany to the US the a little while ago, and he talked about launching his new senior role to his assembled team, using a one slide presentation – On the slide were 8 circles, each containing a one or two digit number. He expanded – “This is my life, summed up in 8 numbers.” He went on to tell a simple story of his life and work, using those numbers.
What numbers do you have? Your life experiences will soon add up to some impressive figures – How many customers have you served? Awards have you won? Posts have you posted? Trainees have you trained? Students have you taught? Courses have you built? Products have you sold? Etc.
My example is specific to me and illustrates how quickly the numbers grow. 30, 6, 5, 600, 2,149 – I have presented and trained in more than 30 countries, written 6 books, worked for 5 Governments, published 600 pieces on the internet, won two major prizes, and, my newsletter has been read in 149 countries, etc. etc. etc.
Zoom in on achievements – Here, you may get a little overwhelmed, so focusing on your more recent achievements can really help boost your morale. What have you won and done in the last 12 months?
Gratitude list – Reader’s that know me, know that I am never more than 4 feet away from a gratitude list. Writing down, fresh every day, 50 or 75 simple, small and ordinary things that you are grateful for, is an amazingly life affirming exercise.
When you have done this 10 times or so, you will have the chance to pick out the highlights to form a truly outstanding gratitude list to add to your affirmation catalogue, ready to record.
Purpose – This can be an extension of your, “I help…” statement or something entirely different. It may contain your version of your identity, your mission, your vision, your hopes and dreams and will, probably, reflect your purpose in work and life too.
OK so far? If you need to get in contact with me and ask a question, send a short E Mail to matthew.hill@hillnetworks.com
NOW. Take a breather. And,
Make Your Affirmation Recording – Here, comes the fun bit. Print off your amazing lists and walk around the house, and bring those key words and short sentences to life. Shout out loud as you walk, creating eloquent statements from your basic notes. This is a technique used by actors and NASA astronauts to own and remember things. ***Create an encouraging and super special recording by imagining you are talking to a slightly younger and more nervous version of yourself and you are delivering an inspirational pep talk to this you figure, before their important event.*** What tone will work best?
When you have done this 2, 3 or 4 times, you will be ready to record your own affirmation “tape”.
You might think that this would end up being a 2-hour monologue that will send you to sleep. In practice, however, it normally works out at 10 to 20 minutes of powerful, encouraging and exciting super-material, that really hits the spot, revs you up and releases an abundance of happy chemicals, “can-do” thoughts, and, helps you to overcome nerves, hesitation and worry.
Vibration
Pick a soothing semi-hypnotic tone…
Use a good microphone, your smartphone or your laptop, and, then clean up the result, editing out umms, aagghs, verbal fluffs and word misfires. Do it in one natural recording and repeat fluff lines, knowing that you can easily edit them out later on.
Result – You will be left with the single most encouraging audio product ever invented to boost your mood, fill you with resilience and confidence and put you in the most productive, creative and awesome mood for the whole day.
What have we just done? Researched it once, rehearsed it 4 times, recorded it once, edited it once, and, you now have something truly powerful, that you can use EVERY DAY!
How cool is that?
Over to you – The sooner you kill your doubt, get stuck into compiling your lists, the sooner you will finish your off-the-charts, affirmation super-product, and, start benefiting from being able to put yourself in an optimal state, on demand, for all those important moments that just keep coming your way.
***All the best with making your affirmation recording.***
Author profile – Matthew Hill is a presentation skills coach, working with European Corporate executives to help them get the most out of their careers and give the most to their customers, in an ethical and sustainable way.
For a positive exchange, please do drop Matthew a short E Mail via matthew.hill@hillnetworks.com